If you are unwilling to
go out of your way for people, don't expect them to go out of their way for you. Set the first example--if you help them, they will help you.Always Show Appreciation
Everyone wants approval and recognition
for what they have done. If someone helps you in any way, tell him how much you appreciate his actions. If you don't, he may not help you again. This is what you should tell people when you show your appreciation:
"I really appreciate the way you...";
"Thank you very much for...";
"You are very good at...":
"I really want to tell you how much I appreciated..."; "You were
very nice to..."
Don't show too much approval and recognition or it will lose its credibility.
Don't "Show Up" Others
When you "show up" others you do it at their expense.
"Showing up" people in front of others takes away their self-respect. If you are better than others, they will know it--you don't have to degrade them.
Treat Small Things With Importance
Some
things that seem small to you mean a great deal to others. Don't ignore small problems; help people solve them. Treating small problems with importance shows other people you care.
Care About People
Everybody is concerned about themselves and it is important for them to have someone to care for them. They are touched when you care about them. Helping people cope with life makes people feel that you care about them.
Don't Criticize A Person In Front Of Others
If you criticise someone in front of others, he will always resent you. It is one of the most degrading things you can do. If you criticize someone, criticize him
constructively and privately.
Give People Your Undivided Attention
All people want to fell important. To make a person feel important you must give him your undivided attention when communicating with him.
Get rid of all interruptions. Make sure you have good eye contact and that you are not playing with objects.
Be Courteous, Tactful, Polite and Diplomatic
Everyone appreciates people who are
courteous,tactful, polite and diplomatic. The best way to learn these qualities is from others. Study someone you would like to be like and learn how he conducts himself.
Be Confident
If you don't have
confidence in yourself, others will not have confidence in you, either. People admire and respect confident people. If you show others doubt, they will treat you with doubt.
Be sure of yourself and play down your insecurities.
